Journaling

The word “journaling” brings to mind a collection of colored pencils creating dreamy words in calligraphy with flowery doodles in the margins. It also makes me think of stacks of journals piled up in a corner waiting to be read and read again. This gives me a little anxiety since I’m a minimalist in training!

I used write in a journal quite a bit, but found I only wrote when I was mad or hurt and I sure didn’t hold back my feelings when I wrote. There were some pretty strong words on those pages! Occassionally, going back and re-reading those words helped me to resolve issues but mostly, it only brought back the hurt. I certainly did not want to leave a legacy of a sad or angry person if I died and someone read them!! Additionally, I didn’t want all that negative energy sitting in my home. So one day I gathered up all my journals, had a little ceremony in my backyard, set them on fire, and watched as all that negative energy was set free.

“Ways to Journal” was the topic of the most recent episode of one of my favorite podcasts called 10 Things to Tell You by Laura Tremaine. Even though I haven’t kept a journal since my fire ceremony years ago, I listened to the podcast and was surprised that I do journal just not in the traditional sense.

Mirriam Webster defines a journal as “a record of experiences, ideas, or reflections kept regularly for private use.” Turns out, there are a multitude of ways to record those experiences, ideas and reflections. Laura shares 10 of them.

Here is how I journal:

I make lists to document things I am grateful for.

I keep a book of letters. When I found out I was pregnant, I bought a simple composition book and started writing letters to my baby who at that point, was the size of a blueberry. While I don’t write in it everyday like I used to, I have 3 notebooks full and I have kept writing these letters for over 7 years. Sometimes its words of wisdom, sometimes a list of his physical traits and his favorites, sometimes it’s words about the joys and the struggles of being a mother, the disappointments and mommy guilt and learning how to give grace to not only others but ourselves as well. Mostly, its about how much joy he brings to my life and how much I love him.

I use what author Julia Cameron refers to as “morning pages.” I don’t always do them in the morning and its not always the 3 pages as specified, but I do sometimes just spill words onto a page without rules like spelling, grammar and punctuation. Its nice just to dump all the thoughts from my brain, even if they are jumbled. When I complete my writing I review it, jot down anything that might be useful and then toss it in the trash. Yep. I just throw it away.

I blog. This blog is very much like a journal except that it is not only for my private use. Its a document of my journey I want to share. I’m hoping others will share their journey with me and I might learn a little about myself along the way.

Currently, I’m very interested in what Laura refers to as affirmation journaling. This is writing down statements that you want to happen in the future as if they have already happened. There is a section for this in The 5 Minute Journal, and Rachel Hollis talks about this in her lastest book, Girl, Stop Apologizing. By the way, if you have not read this book yet, girl, go get it!!! Nobody gets me fired up like Rachel Hollis. I just finished the Audible version, but it was so good I might have to just see it in print. I do, however, recommend the audible version becuase Rachel doesn’t just read the book, she puts all her energy into each word. Im ready to get focused!

Do you journal? I’d love to know why or why not.

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Finding Inspiration

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For several months I have been on a roll, with everything.  I felt like I was making good progress and achieving “flow” and then BAM!!! the bottom dropped out. My very comfortable routine came unraveled and I slipped into a funk. For the last 2 weeks I have been eating lots of junk, running out of patience, yelling at my kid (I even had to put a nail in the fence after a mommy meltdown) and snapping at my husband (luckily, they are very forgiving and love me even when I’m grumpy). I have been hitting snooze way too many times, the workload at my paying job has been stressing me out (y’all I’m 47 and 2 days ago developed a giant pimple on my chin!) and I have been sulking and pouting and not wanting to think about anything, especially all the progress I had made towards my goals going down the tubes.

Then there was Friday. I was going to make a change and get out of the pit I felt I was in. I had a plan.. run errands, eat more intentionally, take a long walk, and write. Run errands – check, eat a healthy lunch – check, walk 3 miles – check, then I sat down to write and….nothing….I had nothing to write. So I decided to change my environment and visit one of my favorite local shops, HomeGrown. They have been taunting me on Facebook with a Pumpkin Dulce candle so I thought I’d go get one. What I ended up with was a candle, 2 decorative items and a huge dose of INSPIRATION!!! Chatting with one of the owners and seeing all the seasonal decor and original creations breathed something in me that made me want to create. Plus I had sold 2 of my photo greeting cards I have on consignment there.

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So I got home, made dinner and then my husband and son stayed the night at our cabin (walking distance from our house), treating me to a quiet night alone giving me a chance to rest, recharge, and get back on track. For me, this is better than diamonds. I kid you not!!

So in addition to working on this post. I put on some comfy PJs and made my favorite chai latte in my favorite cup (made made by a local artisan in another favorite shop, Raindance Designs) and read my new book, The Cozy Minimalist Home by Myquillyn Smith.

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I had read her book, The Nesting Place several years ago and started trying to make this tiny little farm house feel like home. But like fashion, home decor does not come easy for me, I get started but quickly run out of steam.

I’m going to take one baby step at a time and make a few changes to decorate for fall. Maybe this one small step will start me going in the right direction. Maybe being creative in one area will have a snowball effect, spill over into other areas and I can get back to my happy place and once again be well, heart and soul.

I’m finishing up this post at another local spot I love, a coffee shop called the Bull Shack.

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This cozy place has a great story and I’m excited to have them on my list to interview for a series about people who have stepped out, taken a risk and made something amazing happen. I have been wanting to do for a long time but have not been brave enough to take a risk, venture out of my comfort zone, and actually ask people if I can interview them. Well today I did it and I’m so excited to get started. I’d love to hear about a risk you took and how it turned out.

Until next time, Be Well.

Lori

 

 

Goals: A Blueprint for Change

After reading a post at Lein’s Frugal Life in which she listed out her goals, I decided it would be good to actually put some goals in writing. Seeing what I am working towards on paper will probably help me to be more accountable. So here it goes.

Instead of lofty goals, I have written smaller goals I feel like I can achieve and get some momentum going for the more lofty ones. I don’t want to be overwhelmed  and quit so I’m only starting with a few.

1) Reeling in my temper.

In a previous postI wrote about my adult temper tantrums! I often feel that my anger is justified and often, without thinking, spew and rant and then later, feel really guilty for being a jerk. There is a story floating around the internet about a boy with a bad temper and his father’s solution. The father has the boy hammer a nail in the fence every time he loses his temper and then pull one out when he is able to hold his temper. Eventually he is able to control his temper and pull out all of the nails. However, he is made aware of the holes remaining in the fence.

Words in anger do leave emotional scars. I have read that eventually those wounds can  be healed and the scars can fade, but I’d really like to stop inflicting them. So, for the month of September I will open my tool box and start hammering….or not! I’m hoping that the thought of having to hammer a nail in my fence and leave a hole will make me take a breath and calm my emotions before spewing. I should also get back to my book Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses.

2) Complete my 52 Weeks of Thanks project:

I started this project in 2015 and made almost no progress……talk about procrastination!! I been blessed to have so many wonderful people in my life who have been loving or kind, who have inspired me or encouraged me, who have welcomed me and accepted me, and who have been there during good times and bad. I really want to express my gratitude to them and do so in writing. I started this project a long time ago and sent only one letter and have only just recently completed my 2nd letter. So starting in September, my goal is to send 1 written expression of gratitude a week for my remaining 50 weeks. I bet I can even use an app on my phone to help remind me.

3) Nutritional related goals

I love good food, but don’t especially like to cook. Living out in the sticks, doesn’t provide a lot of options when eating out or grocery shopping, so I wanted to learn to make healthy choices and cook simple meals that would benefit my family, my health, and my waistline. One goal was to meet with a nutritionist to get started. I have had my first of 4 consultations at Advice for Eating. My homework is to write down everything I eat for 3 days. I tell you, it’s a pretty sad list. Especially since I am making the transition from stay at home mom to working mom as the school year gets started. Let just say, the cupboard was almost bare. Fish sticks anyone??? I have also noticed that I need to drink more water. Some days the only liquid I consume is coffee, soda and the water I guzzle before bed because my body is screaming for it. I am very aware that if I don’t bring a lunch to work, I will pick up Taco Bell or Burger King – cheap and fast and not healthy at all. So for the month of September, I will increase my water intake and bring a lunch to work. More nutrition goals to come after my second consultation.

4) Write at least 2 blog posts a month.

I have about a dozen unfinished blog posts hanging out on my computer and making time to complete them is all I need. Sometimes I need time to do more research or just time to type it all out. I have time, I do. Unfortunately, its often wasted doing unproductive activities. (I’m working on that post for next time.) I would also like to start adding one of my own photos to each post, especially since photography was my outlet for so long. Beginning in September, I will carve out a chunk of time several times a week to finish these posts and maybe a chunk of time to set out with my camera.

5) Take even a short road trip once a month.

Oh, how I love a good road trip! I love the open road with “off the beaten path” stops along the way. Texas is vast and diverse in history and culture and climate so unlike my eating options in my small town, my big state is a cornucopia of opportunities for adventures on the road. My son’s current requests are The Bluebell Ice Cream Factory in Brenham and  The Dr. Pepper Museum in Waco. I’m ready to hit the road! As I write this I can almost hear crinkles of a roadmap – does anyone remember those days?

Please share your favorite road trip destinations!

6) Read the Bible again.

I love, love, love to read. I joined a family member and began a New Year’s resolution to read at least one book a month. I started out pacing myself pretty well and I have read 13 books since January. (Three of those are chapter books my son and I have read together. It’s been such fun re-reading books from my childhood.) Then things got crazy and I am now in the middle of 3 books and my Amazon wish list keeps growing. I am at a point of being overwhelmed trying to read them all. So what I would like to do is get back to just reading one book and make it “The Good Book.” Someone once told me they thought the Bible was boring. Having already read it once, I can tell you its got more drama than a whole season of The Real Housewives! This living book has provided me with guidance and understanding to so many of my big questions. YouVersion has a great app that will guide my reading journey. I also love the “P.O.W.E.R. tool” you can download over at Biblical Minimalism. I will be using this to track several of my goals.

I have been delighted to see how far this blog has reached all over the world and so curious to see what goals y’all (I’m a Texan!) are working to achieve.  Please share your goals and your progress.

Until next time, Be Well!

Coming soon: Waste Not Want Not: Time, Money, and Trash

A New Journey Begins…….

It’s been far too long since I last spent time blogging….. but I’ve been navigating my 40s, the parenting world, small town living, and farm life for the last 7 years. Additionally, with the explosion of the blogging world and all the changes in technology, I have been a little intimidated about jumping back in. I have worked toward hitting the publish button little by little but thanks to the talented Kylie McClendon for creating my beautiful logo and Rachel Hollis’ book, “Girl, Wash Your Face,” I’m doing it. Guess I needed a beautiful sign and a kick in the pants to get going. So here I go….jumping back in ready or not.

This blog is the next chapter in my journey. Permission to Dream Heart and Soul, my first blog, was the beginning. My head and heart were full of dreams and fortunately, it was a time when I had very few responsibilities. I was free to dream and explore and set out on adventures…..and it was all great fun. While life, now, is not quite as free, with the right tools and a good attitude, I’m hoping I can continue to make it great fun.

So here begins the journey….a journey to find simple tools to build a healthy heart and joyful soul, a quest to minimize my stuff and maximize my life, become more grounded, more responsible, and still find joy in day to day life.

Be well,

Lori